The Truth About Becoming a Serious Writer—and Who Not to Tell

You’re SERIOUS about being a writer! I’m SERIOUS about being a writer. So…. *Crickets chirping* Why aren’t you telling anyone about the book you’re writing or published?

If you’re looking to become a serious writer, shouldn’t you be bursting at the seams with chatter?

Believe it or not, no matter how consistent you are, or how amazing that book of yours is, nobody is gonna know about it or help support you and cheer you on from start to finish if you keep it a secret.

And, frankly, you are doing the world a huge disservice by not telling more people about it.

I get it! Maybe they don’t want to hear about it in the first place, or maybe it’s not ready yet, or even maybe you’re embarrassed to say anything about your work in progress.

All very valid reasons, no doubt!

But…

The longer you stay quiet about it, when it finally launches, you wouldn’t have built the momentum and praise it needs to get it off the ground.

Leaving it to after you have the final product isn’t the best way to announce it. Might cause a small hype! Or it might not…

You want the results, and you want to achieve that dream. Just so you know, you need others to make that happen.

Before you say, “Wait! I wrote this book all on my own AND SELF-PUBLISHED!” I totally understand but hear me out.

You were inspired by something or someone in the first place. Whether it be an author, a book, a movie, or even a family member. That idea was based off something or someone, somewhere.

The idea is all and entirely yours! But like anything that is yours you want the best for it. To take care of it and nurture it. Let others do the same.

If you want to be serious about being a writer, then let people know exactly that.

If you don’t know how, I’ll give you a few tips on How to do it and who to tell!

Tell the Person Closest to You!

The best part about having a close friend, significant other, or even an awesome coworker to confide in, is you have a place to go to be your absolutely most authentic self.

You can go to them for anything and be yourself with no guard up. It’s the best feeling. They understand you, they support you, and they don’t judge a thing you do.

Telling them that you’re writing a story or pursuing a dream really helps you get it off the ground and you’re given the best outcome from it. They validate your dreams.

Saying it out loud to the person whose opinion matters to you the most, can quite easily mean you might as well scream it to the world! Because when they approve and support you, you feel like you can take on the world and anything it has to throw at you.

The right people matter and withholding information like this can prevent the strengthening of your relationships and discourage an increase in connection.

They want to know what inspires you! They want to see you win every time! They want to be your number one supporter through it all. So, let them.

It can help you come up with new ideas, too. Their perspective can reveal new aspects of yourself you didn’t know about and even teach you a thing or two about what their dreams might be.

This could be an influence on your writing that gives it a deeper, much richer feel. Making it all the more reason to trust yourself by sharing your dreams with them.

Announce it in ANY way that you can!

Announce it on your Facebook, your Instagram, your TikTok, ANY social media account you have with like minded people.

One thing I do encourage, is groups or communities of supportive writers who encourage each other. It’s my go to!

To be in a part of a community of like minded people in different aspects of the same journey is so beneficial and the best kind of power move.

In doing this, you’re putting it out there and establishing your title! You’re bringing that energy and opening those doors!

You might spark up curiosity from someone in the same group as you, and they seeing you display your courage might build the courage themselves to reach out to you. Which is a huge statement!

This could possibly help you get into more alignment and pull in places that will help you in the near future with your endeavors and meet the people to push you through on your pursuit from part-time writer to full-time author!

Inspiring, isn’t it!

This will also help you realize you have already been living your dream as a writer from the start! You’re just doing the soft-launch and building up your own following instead of working with an agent and all those PR’s to get your name out there.

Plus, if nobody knows who you are at first and you state the fact that you are a writer, then that’s exactly what they will know you as, and in their head, that’s exactly who you are.

The image you’ve made for yourself has connected to them that you are who you say you are: A writer.

Build a Routine around it

Do what, now?

Build a routine around what you love most.

You want to place importance on this. Just how we plan our day around our family, friends, and jobs, we need to plan our day around our writing.

If you want to do what you love every day, then plan your day around doing that every day. Act how you would if you were a best-selling author in high demand, because we both know this is gonna happen someday soon and you’re gonna have to learn how to manage that.

Get into character and, I don’t mean just act, I mean deliver!

Make it your mission every day to be the person you want to be. The more you believe in yourself, and everyone sees what you’re doing and how real it is to you, they will more than likely start respecting your time and taking into consideration your agenda and how you feel.

Less distraction and more productivity.

To keep yourself accountable, be sure and set out the intention to do this every morning and confirm that you did so every night.

Who Not to Tell and Why

Doing all these things will get you to being more serious about your writing and others around you will naturally start to flow with that vibe… but there are the times it’s not so obvious to others at all.

Remember, dreams are personal and important. Like a sacred memory from our childhood, and we should be cautious with who we choose to share these memories with.

Judgmental or critical people

Fear of judgment is a fear shared to all. I mean, who wants to be judged about how well or not well they’re doing in something? Not me, for sure. So, avoid these people, because out of them you’ll usually experience mocking, belittlement, and a lot of undermining which will cause you to feel really bad about something you did nothing wrong about.

Competitive and Envious people

Who doesn’t like a little competition? I know I do, but it’s when they take it too far that I’m all too ready to throw in the towel and head straight for the bleachers! These kinds of people instantly feel threatened by your inspiring news and will sabotage you any chance they can get. It’s not your fault, they probably just want what you have, or can’t have what you have and get sour with you.

Indifferent of Uninterested people

No offense in any way to any of these people, but you should also feel that way when encountering them. Someone who won’t care or doesn’t just isn’t your cup of tea. No harsh feelings, but they don’t really have the time or want to invest their time in what you have to say. Maybe they have their own things going for them. So, if you do express yourself and get no feedback, no empathy, or just a cold shoulder, don’t take it to heart. They just aren’t your people.

In no way am I saying they are bad people; I’m just saying watch what you say to who you say it to. You should be surrounded by people who support you and encourage you through the highs and the lows, regardless of how far or behind you are compared to them.

No matter where you are in your journey, you’re exactly right where you need to be.

My Final Thoughts to Become a Serious Writer

In conclusion, if you want to truly live your dreams, keeping them a secret won’t do you any good. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.

On social media, you see people living a dream and whether it be fact or fiction, the point behind it is not to discourage you, but to encourage you.

Your social media should be full of people you are striving to be and make you feel good and confident about yourself that resonates positivity. If they don’t, out with them. Unfollow. Unsubscribe.

Your time is precious and so are your dreams. One by one let the world know, and you’ll be quite surprised on who your biggest supporters might be.

Much love, consistency and productivity, Angela.